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"...work such as Kerri’s is critical in modern times, particularly when the mental health industry has much to answer for in relation to the wider social implications it has created..." " Contrived out of first hand experience, Kerri has a wealth of practical knowledge regarding the difficulties that kids face when growing up with developmental and social conditions. Even more valuable to parents and professionals alike, her determination to express that knowledge in an easily digestible format is inspiring and commendable. The technique she employs is simple, fun, and symbolically assimilating, especially for those without a background in behavioural sciences because the language and concepts she uses is plain enough for anyone to understand. Practical, front-line work such as Kerri’s is critical in modern times, particularly when the mental health industry has much to answer for in relation to the wider social implications it has created. Parents need to have resources that help them dissolve the myths about the rigid ways they have been lead to believe kids fit into contemporary society and empower them with the insight to help their children flourish, regardless of any behavioural or social deficits. Kerri’s work aspires to provide these resources and make them easily available to parents all around the globe."
Adam
J. W. Walker |
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OUR JOURNEY (A BRIEF overview) Our son Brandon was born in 1995. Up until he was of school age we were always told how ‘perfect’ our son was. We were always asked “what is your secret ?" My answer, “I don’t have one. I am a new mum.” Once school started we were constantly told of our sons ‘faults’ - his ‘problems’ and his ‘mistakes’. He seemed just fine at home when he was on his own or just with me - put another person in the equation, and down hill it went. WHAT HAVE WE DONE WRONG ? Obviously as parents we blamed ourselves, why wouldn't we ? Especially when society was judging us greatly and slowly isolating us as a family. Not to mention the education institution removing our son daily in front of his peers, and showing him that he was not welcomed nor acceptable to be amongst others. RAPID DESTRUCTION ! As years went by we saw our son rapidly be reduced to a person who was surviving on:
WHEN YOU JUST DON’T FIT
Alarm bells go off, you know changes need to happen.
We knew it
was time for US to make STEPS WE TOOK THAT ALLOWED OUR SON TO FEEL JOY
Empowerment = Success ! |
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OUR JOURNEY (In MORE DETAIL) I will share with you our personal experiences so that you may appreciate where these books have originated from. I am firstly a mother of two uniquely made children, Brandon and Jessica. When I had Brandon, my husband and I thought all was good, but that was until we entered the social scene of the educational institutions. That is when, from day one, we were told quite openly and freely about our sons ‘mistakes’ and ‘ problems’, his differences just were not accepted.
After many years of searching for an
answer, a real answer, and not just judgments and insults
and personal opinions on our parenting skills or our home
environment, we were informed our son had ASD, Autistic
Spectrum Disorder. We thought we were doing the right thing. After years of taking our son to be analysed, observed and constantly labeled, it started to take its toll on us and on him. Brandon rapidly went down hill, knowing he was different and knowing he was not accepted by his peers or by society in itself. Being accepted is a normal and natural yearning that humans need and hope for.
The more Brandon was isolated and
excluded, the lower he became within himself, and self hate,
self loathing, depression, hate, sadness, and resentment
took over. We broke the years and experiences down into facts, started putting all the different opinions, theories and attitudes into perspective. We came to the realization that we needed to take our control back. We needed to start looking within ourselves to find out what our family’s needs were, as a collective unit and what we really hoped for Brandon and more importantly we started asking Brandon what he wanted. We knew that we had to try a different unique way of looking at how we were parenting. We realised that we firstly had to address the issues that could be changed in him.
This required collective philosophies and
actions instead of just focusing on what the medical model
was telling us, but it needed to be done without giving our
children the message that they were not ‘good’ enough. We realised that our son’s main area of undoing was in social situations. When ever he stepped amongst others, he struggled greatly in reading other people’s body language and changes in their behaviours and attitudes. This is when we made the decision to take things into our own hands and fill Brandon with the knowledge that he lacked in. We stopped looking at our child as wrong, different or odd.
We stopped going against his grain. Once
we started walking with him, and we all walked the same
path, Brandon was open to learning and getting the knowledge
of how the world works, or as I have called my books, “The
Rules of the Game”. They come directly from the experiences Brandon has had during his everyday life and the things we have done as a family to help him through these times. I believe that my husband has worked hard enough to provide a home and good life for us all and I did not want him to have work even harder to help support us to pay for all the additional costs involved and all the traveling and emotional stress involved, just so we could take Brandon to a stranger who could only see him once a fortnight and who saw him as broken.
This made no sense! I am a mother before I am a professional. I have studied in the field of disability but I hold a strong position in the knowledge standpoint, this means I am not promoting text books theories to you, I am handing you real life strategies that work, when coupled with, consistency, encouragement and open mindedness. I decided to share my books after receiving a lot of positive feedback from parents and other people who shared the same philosophies.
I also wanted to help parents learn
how to help their own children, without having the added
burden of high costs. Our children have learnt how to see what they may be putting out there in the world that may bring back a negative response, yet more importantly they also know when the responsibility lays on others and have learnt to not take it on board. This is all due to us as parents taking our control back and talking to and listening to our children.
It is about seeing them as who they were
genuinely meant to be and teaching them how to be proud of
whom they are. |
Reading the stories in the books helped my children to "read" their surroundings,
broaden their perspectives, learn morals, respect and self
responsibility, and finally experience joy. Once they
were able to do this were they then able to succeed academically.
I have a deep compassion for children with Autism / Aspergers / ASD
and my goal is to assist parents with obtaining knowledge
that will
enable their children to evolve in a society
that is not always kind
and compassionate.
I am sharing this information to make it easier for parents to think about what their children need to learn, and how to teach it in a manner that keeps the child's self dignity in tact and keeps the child engaged long enough to absorb it.
 Here I am with my 2 beautiful children as we read through the books together. Jessica, Kerri and Brandon |
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"...You
have a unique ability to get inside the minds of
these special people and be their voice..." "I really need to say that I have very much enjoyed your newsletters and the book which I have read. You have a unique ability to get inside the minds of these special people and be their voice. This is a great help the average parent who struggles to understand what is happening inside their heads. Understanding this leads to greater patience and tolerance. Outlining your personal experiences with the school system also helps parents to realize they are not alone in this confusing world nor are their children as terrible as they can appear. With patience and work there is hope. Thank you for being a pioneer in this area. I would recommend your books and newsletters to anyone looking for help in this area."
Pauline F |
So here's what I've done, and here's what I've got to offer you:-
I
have over thirteen years experience with ASD / Aspergers / Autism,
both as a mother and as a consultant to parents,
as well as holding academic qualifications in Advanced Studies Of
Disabilities.
I am currently working on my Masters
Degree In Human Services.
The books are written in step-by-step format to make talking to kids about different situations easier for parents.
Due to all parents having extremely busy lifestyles, it can become like just another chore to have to listen and breakdown our children’s daily experiences and issues, and even then we may struggle to have the right words.
Children have a mountain of situations happen to them daily, and without the appropriate advice and strategies to assist them in dealing with these, they most likely show their discomfort and distress in behavioral manners that are deemed inappropriate in society.
I've developed these 4 books to assist my children in keeping their power and self dignity in tact.
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These are the 4 "Rules Of The Game" books |
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Topics covered in
Book 1
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Topics covered in
Book 2
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Topics covered in
Book 3
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Topics covered in
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Children are not born with the knowledge of emotions nor social
situations, regardless of label or no label.
I believe some children ‘go with the flow’ and this can assist in making them seem ‘normal’ and ‘able to understand their social surroundings’.
Others do not ‘go with the flow’ and hence the negative reactions they will show throughout their days to express this discomfort they are experiencing.
It is easy to assume something when on the outside the person is
seeming content, when in actual fact their inner being can be quite
troubled.
“Rules of the Game” books allows children to understand the
semantics of
their emotions and of the world’s social ways and
also allows them to learn
what responsibility they own and what
responsibility does not belong
on their shoulders and in fact
belongs to another person.
These books are very thorough and are not just books that can be read and put away.
They were developed so parents and
children can use them daily, flick to whichever topic suits the
situation and read through it, then mould it to fit different
situations.
They are broken up into different stories, and when
used consistently,
allows the child to take the knowledge and utilize it in the
every day situations.
Allowing the child to break down situations into different segments (e.g. if someone says something offensive they can think to themselves, “oh that is an opinion and everyone has one, and it does not mean it is the truth”) allows for a sense of control and understanding, and they can then focus on what is important in their lives, and not waste time in becoming worked up on things they cannot control.
The “Rules of the Game” books were
initially developed for my son
and daughter
to assist them with their every day experiences.
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"...Children with Spectrum Disorders often struggle in
finding a way to be understood..." "As a social worker and therapist who has worked with children for over 17 years, I was thrilled to see a resource that will help children navigate the complexity of communication and social interaction. Children with Spectrum Disorders often struggle in finding a way to be understood and to understand how to fit into the world around them. "Rules of the Game" is a wonderfully crafted tool for parents and other care givers to utilize in helping children communicate their needs, understand social cues, and help the world understand them."
Jayne Holden |
"The Rules of the Game" books are made to assist in:
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Challenging existing assumptions, beliefs and behavioural strategies that actually may bring about negative emotions/reactions in your child.
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Allowing the child to start to replace negative patterns of behaviour with more realistic, useful and helpful beliefs and strategies that are incorporated throughout the book.
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Working in partnership with professionals, but is used in ways that ensure you can follow up at home daily with your child, instead of waiting for a fortnight or more to address certain issues.
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Most importantly it is the visual factor that allows the child to remain engaged throughout the learning process.
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Here is an explanation of one of the topics covered in book 2. THINK IT, DON’T SAY IT © I realised my children did not deliberately say things to hurt other people; they simply spoke the truth as they saw it. I don’t believe in shaming children when they say something that may bring embarrassment on my family and to me out in public, instead I focus on teaching them the appropriate way. My daughter spoke this ‘truth’ quite often and it was extremely embarrassing and yes I could have easily yelled at her and punished her, but what would the point of been, what would that have achieved. To a Childs mind they are stating a fact - if they see some one overweight and mention it out loud, they are stating a fact. They are not aware of the ‘social rules’ nor do they have the ability to hold their tongue and think it quietly. In this story I validate the fact that what they are saying may be fact, yet I also assist in helping the child to realise and become aware of how the other person may feel hearing them say that. (This assists with learning empathy, responsibility by helping the child to think of how the other person may feel and see it, and then to take the responsibility by not saying things that may hurt other people’s feelings.) It is important to remember
that children need to be reminded consistently and
repetitively on the different situations throughout my
books. They do not have the ability with such young minds
and also through their busy days to retrieve information for
different situations unless they are prompted. If you notice the words I have bolded, they are very
empowering words. |
These 4 "Rules Of The Game" books are yours today for just
Regular Price $197
$97
That's
right, only $97 gets you all 4 of these books.
Why do you sell your books so cheap ?
( Yes I have been asked this question, in this manner.)
The only answer I can give that is honest, is I really want to see these kids have a break and be able to evolve positively in their lives.
Unfortunately when someone is labeled in society
it seems to be a
common occurrence that so called
“normal” people feel the need to
fix, fix, and fix.
For goodness sake, these are children, and they need guidance, guidance, guidance - along with compassion, compassion, compassion - and not to forget joy, joy, joy.
It would seem in society that ASD / Aspergers / Autism is a ‘new diagnosis with letters’.
What a hard burden for young shoulders to carry.
These false assumptions and social beliefs only affect the child
in the long run.
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"...Every parent is sure to learn new and wonderful things about their children by filling in these pages..." "These simple no frills workbooks give lots of space to write and also to add personal touches like favourite stickers or drawings and this makes the books really unique to each child.
A
beautiful idea and something to treasure forever. Every
parent is sure to learn new and wonderful things about
their children by filling in these pages." |
I want to share my experiences and perceptions that may enable
parents and professionals to re-adjust certain mind sets they may
have been taught, or grown over time.
These small ripples will eventually grow in momentum and genuinely benefit children, regardless of label and diagnosis.
In order to get my theories out I need to be compassionate to parents and their needs, abilities and that includes financial situations. Hence keeping the price very affordable. I live in their world too.
I experience similar situations that you do, and I know I personally
you
do not need another theory lesson on these children’s ways,
or societies boxed beliefs on these children.
I needed verbs, and I needed a way to get things rolling (so I will make a small assumption that other parents, not all, may possibly be open and welcoming to new ideas and theories).
I developed this plan and am sharing my knowledge with parents to get the most out of my books, spread a positive word around and in turn my theories and success’ will make its way back to the children ... Children that are my love, my energy and where my compassion lays.
Finances are not my main focus. It will eventually come around and give me what I need to further my education to empower more children and parents.
I have no need to profit grossly from anyone, because my devotion is to the children with ASD / Aspergers /Autism that are being oppressed, isolated and basically treated differently in society - that in turn do not help the child to learn their talents and attributions they could give back to society and the community.
The other reason they are so reasonably priced is because they are all ebooks.
That's right.
Because they are ebooks I don't have the huge expense of having to get them printed and then the shipping costs to get them to you.
The other benefit to you is that as soon as your credit card transaction has been approved you are given immediate access to a secret webpage where you can download all four of the "Rules Of The Game" books, as well as the 3 Free Bonus Workbooks.
And just to sweeten the deal a little more I am gong to include a "Secret" unannounced bonus which I know you will love.
And don't forget our Full Money Back Guarantee.
There is no risk to you whatsoever - I am covering all the risk.
If for some reason you decide to get a full refund, I am happy for you to keep all of my books that you have downloaded.
This is my way of saying Thank You for at least checking them out.
And if you thought my offer above wasn't great value, then take a look at this.
As well as the 4 "Rules Of The Game" books,
for a limited time I am
including at no extra cost,
3 Workbooks for Free.
That's right, for a limited time you get the 3 Workbooks for Free.
(The regular price of these Bonus Workbooks are $29 each, so you are
saving $87 - that's a pretty good bonus in anyone's terms.)
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These 4 "Rules Of The Game" books are yours today for just
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valued at $87
And if that isn't enough value, you can check out this whole huge package for 60 days risk free, and if for some crazy reason you are not totally happy with it, then you get a full refund - no questions asked, and you get to keep it all anyway.
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#4 "Poetry
For Emotion" I remember as a child not having emotions explained to me and also being told by some adults to "just get over it". I believe if we validate and listen to how our children feel, this brings a sense of normality and comfort to them and they will be happier and healthier adults. This series of comical poems helps to raise, in a non threatening manner, some difficult issues faced by children, and encourages laughter, open discussions and helps them to develop their own practical strategies when faced with real life problems. This book is full of A LOT of fun
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 "...Kerri's
books are both informative and engaging but most
importantly fun. They are full of real life practical
examples...""Life can be confusing for children with ASD and society may not always be kind or understanding. Being a parent is also difficult on so many levels. Kerri's books are designed to provide practical hints and strategies for parents to help them better understand the children they live with and manage the emotions that they experience, with the main focus being on empowerment, individuality and discovering real joy in parenting their children. Kerri's books are both informative and engaging but most importantly fun. They are full of real life practical examples designed to assist parents to deal with real life situations. The bright pictures and easy to understand language that is free of medical terminology, and rigid impractical, one size fits all strategies are certain to be engaging to children and get them actively involved in their own learning, but the format is presented in a way that can easily be used by teachers and child care professionals as well. As a Mother herself, Kerri has gained a wealth of first hand experience and she also has a background in Advanced disability studies with a focus of social justice issues. Kerri has an exciting and
refreshing new approach to age old issues which she
freely shares with others in these valuable Highly recommended for all
parents." |
Will it fix my child ?
I developed this
whole package with the mind set that
did not include the child needing to be ‘fixed’.
Trust me, I live it - the ‘fixing’ does not start with the kids!
These 2 photos were
taken at a recent workshop conducted by Kerri
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"...Kerri is an extremely passionate person who is
unselfishly sharing her own experiences and using her
creative skills to produce a people friendly range of
resources that are captivating, educational and
interesting for families supporting family members with
Aspergers syndrome and Autistic Spectrum Disorder..." 14 October 2009. To Whom it May Concern. Reference - Kerri Stocks
Dear Sir/Madam, Kerri has shown a tremendous amount of initiative, courage and creativity in developing a business that is designed to fill a much needed void in a very difficult and emotional area for a growing number of people and families. Despite the daily challenges within her own family, she has developed this business from a practical perspective blended with her own personal experiences. Kerri is an extremely passionate person who is unselfishly sharing her own experiences and using her creative skills to produce a people friendly range of resources that are captivating, educational and interesting for families supporting family members with Aspergers syndrome and Autistic Spectrum Disorder. I have had the opportunity to see some of her resources and share them with families that I work with in my role as a Facilitator with Disability Services Family Support Program. The response from these families has been very positive and they comment on the insight and learning that Kerri’s resources contain. Kerri’s warm and engaging personality is an attribute that makes her an ideal person to communicate with people in the same or similar situation to herself. Her presentations are fun learning and educational experiences for her audiences. I believe that Kerri has the
commitment and determination to succeed with her
business despite the challenges that she has that many
others don’t face when developing a business. |
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These 4 "Rules Of The Game" books are yours today for just
Regular Price $197
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please visit the
Frequently
Asked Questions page.
Kind Regards,
Kerri Stocks
Maryborough, QLD, 4650
Australia
P.S. Autism, Aspergers,
ASD - What a burden for a
person, especially a child to have to carry around with them. These
unspoken labels attached to them. This made me start to join the
pieces and realise why my son was fighting so much - why he was so
despondent, unresponsive and basically just existing in this world,
not enjoying it and certainly made sense why he hated himself so
much.
(Bad; naughty; bad parenting; manipulative; rude;
ignorant; useless; worthless; “don’t play with him/her”; retard;
weirdo; freak; loser; idiot; annoyance; pain; trouble; creep;
mistake; not normal; brat; liar; undisciplined; to much work;
ungrateful; trouble maker.)
Unfortunately when a child has a ‘behavioural issue’ label, they are carrying with them more than just one. Assumptions are automatically made, whether consciously or subconsciously.
So whether people want to admit it or not, this is what Aspergers / Autism / ASD means to society. You see it in behaviours from others, you feel it in body language from others and I have met parents that have had to practically sell their child to have them accepted into a certain school.
P.P.S.
These 4 "Rules Of The Game" books are yours today for just
Regular Price $197
$97
That's right, only $97 gets you all 4 of these books.
Plus you get the 3 FREE bonus Workbooks valued at $87
Plus for a limited time you also get "Poems For Emotions" included FREE !!
Note: Due to new FTC regulations I must tell you that when you buy my
books, I actually make money which I use to provide for my family.
(As silly as it might sound telling you this, the FTC basically says
we must tell you this.)
and they say I must also tell you that these results are not
typical, and individual results will vary greatly and in accordance
with your input, determination, hard work, and the ability to follow
directions.
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